Believing in Others with the Teachable Spirit

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Believing in Others with the Teachable Spirit

How does an individual help another human being live up to their potential?
What does the teachable spirit say to a person to help them overcome their self limitations?
How can we believe in others when we want to encourage them to do their best?

The teachable spirit appreciates Dr. Warren Bruhl’s philosophy that when speaking to a fellow human being,

Dr. Warren Bruhl in Kenya, February 2012.

Dr. Warren Bruhl in Kenya, February 2012.

taking the approach of being upfront with that person when you know there is a potential flaw, and speaking of your highest expectation of them will divert potential disappointment. In other words, tell them how marvelous they are and that you know they will live up to a higher standard than those around them. Does that seem too Pollyanna?

Recently, the teachable spirit came across a video clip of Viktor Frankl lecturing about why we should believe in others. This gentleman, who endured imprisonment in a Nazi concentration camp, lost the other members of his family during World War II, and went on to write Man’s Search for Meaning, delivered this message in 1972.

Flying over Tampa Bay on the way home after the Talk Fusion Now Event, May 2012.

Flying over Tampa Bay on the way home after the Talk Fusion Now Event, May 2012.

Describing a metaphor from his recent experience taking lessons learning how to fly a plane, he discussed the method for flying from one point to another against a cross wind. In that situation, you cannot exactly fly straight; you have to fly the plane while making short corrections as you go.

He called this process, “crabbing.”

Applying this concept to the idea that young people are statistically more interested in finding their purpose than making a lot of money, he describes how a cross wind can cause an airplane to drift:

Meeting Douglas Monene has completely changed my life and is the connection that compels me to continue making changes, February 2013.

Douglas Monene, my son, Isaac Van Mechelen, and me after climbing a trail on Mt. Kilimanjaro, Tanzania, January 2013.

If you take man as he really is, you make him worse. If we seem to be idealistic and are overestimating and overrating him, then we promote him to what he really can be. We have to be idealist in a way, then we will wind up at the true destination. —Viktor Frankl

Emphasizing his point, he quotes Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:

When we treat man as he is, we make him worse than he is; when we

Douglas Monene overlooking Lake Elementaita, Kenya, February 2013.

Douglas Monene overlooking Lake Elementaita, Kenya, February 2013.

treat him as if he already were what he potentially could be, we make him what he should be. —Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

He goes on to say:

If you don’t recognize a young man’s search for meaning, you make him worse, you make him frustrated…let’s recognize the spark in a young man; presuppose it and then you will illicit it from him. You will make him become what he in principle is capable of becoming. —Viktor Frankl

Natalie holding Tiberius, Isaac, Amy, and me at Ty's dedication, December 2013.

Natalie holding Tiberius, Isaac, Amy, and me at Ty’s dedication, December 2013.

Raising my children, I was the mother who bragged excessively about my children in front of them to whomever would listen. Faults and discipline aside, I always found something amazing to share about my kids. Perhaps you think that is unrealistic, deviating from the truth, or simply lying. At times, I thought the same too, but I always returned to this behavior of sharing the next most amazing thing they were doing, and I still do, whether you ask me or not; I will pontificate on and on obnoxiously about what they are currently doing.

  • First of all, after watching this video, did I ever feel gratified and justified that I had taken that stance with my children!
  • Secondly, in my experience, my children rose to the level of my outrageous expectations!
  • My own experience verifies what Viktor Frankl is saying in this beautiful video clip!

The teachable spirit understands that helping others live up to their potential involves:

  • believing the best in others
  • promoting that behavior in them
  • generally expecting that they will be what you believe them to be

 

Dr. Warren Bruhl and Dr. Jeff Kahrs providing chiropractic care to local residents in Kimana, Kenya, December 2013.

Dr. Warren Bruhl and Dr. Jeff Kahrs providing chiropractic care to local residents in Kimana, Kenya, December 2013. Photo courtesy of Beret Meyers Photography.

Dr. Warren Bruhl, Dr. Jeff Kahrs, Dr. Scott Smith, the teachable spirit and many others all feel the keen desire for the people of Kenya to live up to their highest potential. Although Dreamweaver International is starting with the Maasai in the Kimana Rift Valley, which supports the creation of the Kilimanjaro Mission Hospital, the ongoing mission of the Kimana School of Leadership and Professional Studies, and Gear for Goals, there is much more work to be done. As Dr. Warren Bruhl says,

Admiring the indomitable spirit of Douglas and the children of Ingrid compels me support this work in Nairobi, Kenya, January 2013.

Douglas Monene, the teachers, and the children of Ingrid in Nairobi, Kenya, January 2013.

Education is the secret ingredient to changing the world. —Dr. Warren Bruhl

Consequently, community based organizations such as Ingrid Education Centre is a smart way to create this change by believing that they can. Holding these charities to a higher standard helps them to rise to their potential. People and organizations generally rise to the level of our expectations.

Believing in others helps them to be their best.

Members of the Board of Dreamweaver International: Ken and Sandy Taylor, Dr. Scott Smith, and Dr. Warren Bruhl, August 2013.

Members of the Board of Dreamweaver International: Ken and Sandy Taylor, Dr. Scott Smith, and Dr. Warren Bruhl, August 2013.

Contact Dr. Warren Bruhl via email: dr.bruhl@dreamweaver911.org or other members of  the Board through Dreamweaver International to support Kimana School or Leadership and Professional StudiesKilimanjaro Mission Hospital, or Gear for Goals

Contact Douglas Monene, founder of Ingrid Education Centre via email: douglasmonene@gmail.com to learn how to sponsor one of the children who attend Ingrid

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